The Trivial Pursuit of Happiness


Public Service Announcement:
August 22, 2008, 8:28 pm
Filed under: Brain Dump, links to good stuff

With everything that is going on right now, you wouldn’t think that I would have time to seriously consider which nationally available ice cream brands have the best coffee flavored variety. After months of research, and complete surrender never to fit back into a size 6 jeans, I think I can now say that the top two are: Tillamook’s Espresso Mocha and Breyer’s Plain Coffee.

You’re welcome.



It’s ALIVE!
June 25, 2008, 12:36 pm
Filed under: Brain Dump, Cricket, Ella, List, Motherhood, Tom, health, metablogging, posted in haste, travel

The more days that go between blog posts, the harder it is for me to decide what on earth to write about. So how about a quick jumbled mess of a post to catch you all up, aye? Cool.

- I finally saw a doctor about my hands, and the prognosis is: pretty much broken. The doctor is a family doc with a background in dermatology, but even he had to get out his book of scary diseases to see if he could find an answer. We are leaning between this and this, (don’t click if weird skin issues gross you out. My hands are NOT as bad as these photos!) with some blood work to rule out anything else. Either way, my hands are not bad enough to warrant the treatments (immune suppressant therapy, experimental nasty drugs) so I just get to be the girl with the itchy swollen hands I guess. My hands are actually totally fine today, for the first time in months, other than peeling from all the swelling. It’s hot.

- My sister and her boys are still here, and we all scratchy-throat sick. I like to blame Tom, since his job involves breathing the same air as 236736 travelers every day, so maybe we have SARS. Or a cold. Either way, sick kids = crabby kids, and that equals lots of TV. Sanity > parent of the year award.

- Tom and I tried to convince Chance yesterday that she wanted to stay forever. The girls are loving having their cousins here, I like knowing I am not alone with my angry little dictators all day, and besides, they are just fun people to be around. She scoffed, and reminded us that her very viking-esque husband would come looking for her eventually. That and her boys are slowly driving her insane while she is solo-parenting them, so yeah. They are leaving on the 5th, and hopefully moving a state or two closer, though still a multiple day drive.

- Speaking of driving, the Portland trip was great, though rushed. The main reason we went down was for a surprise celebration party for my Mum. I haven’t written a lot about my other family on the blog, mostly because I know it is weird to post about other people’s lives in a public space, but let it be known: This woman was worth driving 800 miles in two days with a sleep deprived toddler and a 6 month old. More than worth it. I’m so glad we were able to be there, and it makes me wish I would justify going down more often.

- Tom has another job opportunity on the horizon that we are trying not to invest ourselves in, even though it would be so very ideal for us. Not only would it make it possible for us to pay all of our bills, but also put some money away (wonder of wonders!) Unless something comes though in the next 3 or so months, my going back to work at least part time is almost inevitable. Think happy thoughts about the job.

- Our anniversary was wonderful. We ended up putting off the sans-kids date until a night that Tom could stay awake past 7pm, which worked out since there was a sunset concert that night up at a local winery. It was nice to get out without the kids, and even better just to have time to focus on each other. We’ve packed a lot of “focusing on little people” into the last 3 years - we have to remind ourselves to spread some of that attention around. Alice was not a huge fan of the bottle, but we were just a few miles away, so when Chance called and Alice was shrieking in the background, the boobs were able to come to the rescue.

Picture post later - both the girls are sleeping right now, which means it’s time for me to have ice cream and coffee and not have anyone begging or scalding themselves.



This is how my mind works today.
December 23, 2007, 8:54 pm
Filed under: Brain Dump, holidays
  • I am now officially down to my pre-pregnancy weight. Don’t be too envious - squish belly is still in full effect. Nothing like having a deflated beach ball around your midsection to make you feel great. I am anxious to put away my pregnancy pants, but don’t want to fight this flop into a real waistband. That’s right - pants with a button intimidate me. Good thing I’ve got this inflated rack to distract you from my elastic waistband.

Peg Kerr said:

The smartest thing we did as a family about Christmas was to use an idea my sister had given me, the Five Gifts of Christmas. Each year, we would give our two daughters:

1. Something to love, to teach nurturing (for our daughters, this generally meant a doll. This worked well for us. For younger children, it might mean a stuffed animal. For older children, this might be a pet, or pet supplies. This category can stretch a little. You might think it means nurturing/caring for something like a garden, so you could buy garden supplies. Or perhaps a bird feeder (caring for animals).
2. Something to help them be artistic (paints, bead kits, other art supplies)
3. Something to help them be athletic (jump ropes, soccer ball, stilts, etc.)
4. Something to read (books were always a big hit in our house)
5. Something for them to do with parents (a board game, a puzzle. One year we got them tickets to a play for us to see together).

This worked very well for us, because it was simultaneously limiting and yet creative. The kids liked it, too. We felt the gift-giving experience was well-rounded, and once we had picked the five gifts, it was easy to tell ourselves we were “done,” without that nagging sense that we needed to get them another gift.

A little late this year, but I don’t think we went too far overboard. For Alice: we got her life, and a few footie pajamas. I think that is a pretty good haul. For Ella: an aqua doodle, markers and a notepad are all artistic, a little stuffed mouse to love, a couple books of course, a box of puzzles that we will do together… Oh, and a set of orange plastic traffic cones, from her dad. I.. don’t know. But that is athletic, right? Ha.

  • Guess who is going to an Ani Difranco concert in April? Meeeeeeeeeee! Oh, and Tom. It will involved leaving the girls for 4-5 hours, which freaks me out (Alice will only be 4 months!) but I will deal with that when I get there. For now I am all giddy and happy that Tom finally listened when i told him what I wanted for Christmas. (My exact words were “I’ll buy myself a ticket on the 26th if you don’t get me one for Christmas, so just buy it, okay?” And then he DID. Amazing.)


I’m fancy like ketchup
December 20, 2007, 5:41 pm
Filed under: Brain Dump, Cricket, Ella, links to good stuff

Soda Vs. Pop. This makes me giggle because #1 - SO TRUE, and #2, oh grad school. So many man hours went into putting this together.

Cat and Girl.  I’m slowly making my way backwards in the archives and have been snickering enough over here that Tom finally asked what I am looking at. Oh, just this. And this. Plus this one. Bonus points for literature jokes. Har!

When I am excited about a book, I tend to start marking it up, underlining passages and scrawling notes in the margins. I read quickly - both by nature and due to years of necessity (be it as an English Major (for realz, you wouldn’t guess it by my awesome command of language, aye?) or as a mom (on a good day, Ella sits on her potty for 5+ minutes at a time, andI can get a couple pages in). It’s not uncommon for me to get through a book a week, and anything that takes longer usually gets put into the “Eh” stack, unfinished. That stack has gotten pretty tall in the last few months. While there are plenty of things I do not miss about being in school, something I do miss is the constant stream of quality books that were being thrown at me. It has been a while since I read something that made me want to restart it as soon as I finished it, but I just finished Richard Russo’s Empire Falls today (read mostly at 2am) and looooved it. Apparently I am about 6 years behind in my devotion (oh, look, it won a Pulitizer Prize and was made into a HBO mini-series. I guess other people liked it too…) but of the stack of .50 cent books I bought at Goodwill a few weeks ago, this is the only one that has been worth it. Resurrection: predictable. Fortune’s Rocks/The Pilot’s Wife: Both suffering from a lack of development, and some very uninspiring writing. Hadn’t realized they were by the same women until just now, but OH now I can see it… Icy Sparks: An “eh” book that I eventually ended, but wished I hadn’t. Ehhhhhhh. While I Was Gone: Strong start, but then it just drags and drags. And drags. Next on my pile is Anthony Bourdain’s Kitchen Confidential, and I SO badly want to like this book. Please tell me I won’t hate it.

And because I can’t write a post not about my kids, Ella weighed in at our pediatrician appointment yesterday at 27lbs(54th percentile), and 3ft 1inches tall (97th percentile).  Alice is now 8 lbs (69th percentile)(up a full pound from birth! Yay Boobs!) and 21.5 inches long (97th percentile).  So basically my kids are long and skinny. I wonder where they get that from



Brain Dump
December 16, 2007, 11:40 am
Filed under: Brain Dump, links to good stuff

Is it impractical to plan on Kate Winslet playing me in the movie of my life, even though she is 8 years older than I am?

I am working on Alice’s birth announcement, and they come in packs of 100, which is about 85 more than I need. Would you like one? Email me at thetrivialpursuitofhappiness(at)gmail(dot)com with your addy and I’ll add you to the list!

Today is Alice’s first jaunt into the outside world, but luckily we are going to see a group of women who know exactly how scary and relieving this is. Ella is staying home and having a Daddy day, which will be good for all of us I think. Ella has been spending a couple hours each day with her Grandma, and we’ve had wonderful friends over a few times this week (bearing food and tiny clothes! yay!) but nothing compares to Daddy.

Nursing at the computer leads to awesome discoveries:

  • A collection of antique medical and surgical instruments! Chance, you should love this site…
  • 50 top 10 lists of 2007.
  • This carrot muffin recipe was a huge hit around here. I made it into mini loafs instead and both were gone within a day. The next batch I am going to throw in more veggies (zucchini and apples maybe?) and use less sugar, and freeze a bunch for future breakfasts.
  • Fun and different holiday music. In fact, if you don’t get the “All Songs Considered” podcast each week, you are missing out.
  • I ordered this pattern. A part of me says “Hey, I could just figure that out on my own!” and then the other part of me remembers that I don’t have 97636 hours to waste troubleshooting a pattern. My time is worth $9 I think…
  • Drool. It’s too late to order for Christmas, but I htink you deserve a “I survived the holidays” gift. *wink*

A note about comments:

Oh goodness I am so enjoying all the comments lately! I am slowly making my way through all the new blogs that you have all linked, and finding some amazing writers out there. Most of the time I am at my computer I am stuck only using my mouse (one armed nursing bandit!) so I haven’t been commenting everywhere I’ve been, but I am adding to my google reader daily.

Also, someone asked about the comments I leave here, but that seem to be from other people - they are the comments that are left over on the RSS feed of my posts on LJ. Since I made so many close friends there before I made the switch to wordpress, my RSS feed there gets more action than I do over here most days. Since only a couple entires are saved over there at a time, I have to snag the comments and paste them over here if I want to keep them (which I do!) Mystery solved.